Week 5 - Guilty but not Guilty
Guilty but not Guilty
Lisa, MumShape Founder
The single parent to baby Mila, part-time dog mama and start-up founder takes us on her 6 week experiment trying to reduce stress, work out regularly and improve her diet.
Guys, so sorry for being quiet for a few weeks! Life has been crazy and I could just not hold up with all my tasks.
And since I wrote so much about taking breaks and breathing in and not getting stressed and how to set priorities being mothers - I just had to live that for a little while. Which doesn't mean that there is no progress - it is actually the opposite. We have so many exciting projects in the pipeline for you :)
My daughter obviously loved it! But ough! .. how guilty did that make me feel! No veggies and only pasta for days. I guess as mothers we always try our best. But what is the best?
Let me present some mama types: Stay-at-home, Working, Breastfeeding, Bottlefeeding, Strict, Easy-going, Single, Married, With Siblings, An Only-Child,... etc
And I am sure all mamas live with some guilt. We all try to be the perfect mama while managing life, work, and relationships. Some evenings, I would lay in bed and review the day. Some nights, I feel guilty because my daughter spent all day at the nursery and I only saw her for one hour before bringing her to bed. Some evenings, I feel guilty because I had no time to prepare a healthy home-cooked dinner. Some nights I feel guilty because I am a single parent, and I am not able to give her the 'normal' life depicted on TV... the list goes on. Mamas feel guilty because they are back at work, or because they bottle-feed their kid, because they were impatient the day before,.. but no one is perfect!
We all know that there is no right or wrong and I had to learn that I make certain decisions for which I will carry the responsibility. I am sure we all chose a path we think is the right one at the given time. And as mentioned in previous weeks, we shouldn't blame ourselves - or other mamas...
So today, I am finally able to sit in my favorite coffee shop and just focus on writing and gathering my thoughts. I have the feeling the big storm calmed down a bit and my waves start to be more steady again. Which hopefully means more time to cook home-made food with tons of veggies :)
But this also means more focus on my physical and mental health, more exercise again, more warm dinners for myself and less screen-time to not engage with my phone during the weekend and the precious time I spend with my child.